Fantasy to Friend

Going from her Fantasy to her Friend in the blink of an eye......

You know the good old saying "Clothes don't make the man", well unfortunately for you men sometimes clothes do make the man, they can make him our fantasy or our friend!

"Wow, he's adorable" to "Oh my God forget it he's wearing_____" has definitely been said about you if you are sporting any of the following:

Strappy Sandals. You know the kind. The complicated Velcro sandals with a slight heel. They look more like an air cast than a shoe. They are in no better words a shoe catastrophe. Unless your the host of Man Vs. Wild, I see no reason for them to be worn in everyday life.

The words Men and Mittens should never even be spoken in the same sentence. Mittens are for boy children, it's not an acceptable practice for an adult male to be wearing them. Think twice before you put your hands in a pair when your leaving the house, because those hands wont be going in any other warm spots (wink wink)!



White socks with black shoes. First of all how do your feet even fit in shoes with gym socks on? A stylish shoe needs to be shown some respect with the proper hosiery! One man only can pull this off his name is Michael Jackson, and I believe you to not be him.


Belts/ties/button downs covered in sea crustaceans. Question: When have you ever been with a girl and she looked in a lobster tank and said to you "aww those lobsters are so cute, you should most definitely buy a piece of clothing with an absurd amount of them on it?" Answer: What is "Never" Mr. Trebek!


I am all about individuality and being yourself, but there is definitely a line between TURN ON AND TURN OFF!

The Gym and the Make-Up Members

Girls, have you ever been in the gym and a guy tries to talk to you, but when you are unresponsive he gets defensive? You feel like you are in bar and you just refused a drink from him. The gym is a place to get away from all the drama that goes along with everyday life and blow off steam. I shouldn't have to deal with getting hit on while sweating and trying to catch my breath!

I have my theory on why this happens. I call it the "Make-up Member" Theory.

I will never understand why girls wear a full face of makeup to the gym. The environment just doesn’t feel like the right place to be sporting my $16 Mac lip-gloss. I wonder to my self “don’t their pours clog up from sweating with all that goop on their faces?” Duh, then it dawned on me, these girls are NOT sweating. They are the "Make-up members". Their hair is down, they are wearing their velvet Juicy sweat suits that are not made for working out and their perfectly clean sneakers, which look as though they were never used for anything real physical. They usually travel in packs, and they spend more time wandering than using the equipment. They read magazines while doing cardio, and think the lower back machine is for abs. Upon their exit they usually buy a “protein” bar not having a clue that it probably has as much sugar in it as Fun Dip!

These type of girls give men the idea we all want to be hit in in the gym and I got news for you, WE DON'T!

I understand and respect that people want to feel good about themselves and look good in public. It’s one thing to throw some waterproof mascara on, but please refrain from Kim Kardashian's makeup routine!!!!!

The Nice the Bad and The Balanced

After talking with a friend who described a guy she recently went on a date with as “to nice” I started racking my brain for reasons girls flock to “The Bad Boy” and cast away “The Nice Guy”.
He’s confident, he’s witty, he’s strong, and he’s unpredictable, we can smell how wrong he is for us a mile away, knowing he has the potential to crush our hearts. But we still want him and fall for his charm every single time. We want him as bad as we want those new Manolo Blahnik’s at Niemen’s to go on sale or another Louis Vuitton bag we know we can’t afford, will for sure put a dent in our bank account, but still buy!

He’s “THE BAD BOY”

He’s corny, he’s predictable, and he yes’s us to death. We are bored by his lame attempts to compliment us every two minutes, he doesn’t have a mind of his own and our thoughts and opinions become his. The thought of hair scrunchies coming back into style, or our favorite lip gloss being discontinued becomes more appealing than spending one more mundane minute with him.

HE’S “THE NICE GUY”

Men are classified in one of two categories “The Nice Guy” or “The Bad Boy” No little girls dream of one day meeting a boy that will make them cry, leave them waiting at home or playing guessing games. Nor do we pray for a guy who will bow to our every command and be our doormat. After coming to this easy conclusion, I realized we don't want either. We don't want the bad that comes with the bad, and we don't want the boredom that comes with the nice. We want a combination of the attributes both share. I am convinced “The Balanced Guy” exists!

Here is my perfect balance of the two!

Backbone: While the nice guy’s opinions become less and less his own and rather ours. , the so-called bad boy will challenge our thoughts and opinions, stimulate us mentally, but can sometimes be overbearing. We need a balanced man who will listen to our ideas and at the same time respect them.

Unpredictability: The nice guys tend to always say and do the same things, and it's boring. Taking us to the same restaurants, bringing up the same conversation topics. The bad boy is unpredictable, not afraid to take a chance on something new and different, but will most of the time forget about those few things we really do love. We need that balanced guy who will never forget those things we love to do, to talk about, but also isn’t afraid to switch it up, and be spontaneous.

Confidence: Bad boys can definitely be ********, but they're confident ********. They know what they like, and are not afraid to make it known. There is nothing less attractive to a woman than a man that doesn’t know what to do or what he wants. Someone who needs constant guidance on reaching a decision. This only tells us you will not be fun in, nor make it to the one room of our houses your dying to be in. That guy that has the perfect balance will want your opinion and take it into consideration but knows when he won’t need it and can make the decision for himself or for the both of you.

Strength: No matter how independent we can be, women still want to feel safe. We want to be protected. Bad boys seem to project this safety net quality through sheer toughness, but sensitivity can get lost in the roughness. Nice guys come across as weak with their constant pursuit to agree, and please. That balanced guy will have the strength to take us under his wing and protect us through the hard times along with knowing how to use the right words that will comfort us.

So to all you men who fall under the “Balanced” category come out come out wherever you are. They myth of your existence needs to be brought to life!

And for you men who think you need to be the "Bad Boy" to get the girl, become "THE BALANCED" GUY!!!!!